b' The ideal self is thebigger dream you walk toward. Life has no fixed Rose Qing Zhao meaningwe give it meaning by setting aspirations.Rose Qing Zhao 1727One of the most touching parts of your story islove. You said youve had three key relationships.25 55Why was it important to share that?40 6080RQZ:Because many women write to me: Im almost 40,I dont have money, my career isnt going anywhere, mymarriage is a mess. I want to tell them: believe in love. My first relationship, from 17 to 27, was full of hurt. My second partner, my daughters father, was 25 years of RZmutual respectlike family. And at 55, I met my currenthusband. That means at 40, 60, even 80, you can still date,still enjoy romance, still be loved. First tell yourself: Ideserve it. Love nourishes a woman. You also talked about three selves: true self,social self, and ideal self.RQZ:Yes. The true self is your inner growth. The social RZself is your careera place to practice, to give love, tocirculate energy. And the ideal self is the bigger dream you walk toward. Life has no fixed meaningwe give it meaning by setting aspirations. When you walk toward that, your presence becomes stronger.If you could leave one sentence for our women readers?RQZ:First see yourself, then fall in love with yourself, then live as yourself. And remember: when you bow your body, you lift your soul. BALLIET + WANG LUXURY LIVING 107'